I have been with one man all my life, and I have taken him as the love of my life..but now at the age of 30 I am getting separated from my husband. I am too scared wondering if I will ever find anyone or fall in love again… even after all that happened between us I am getting cold feet; stepping out of my marital home for good, well it’s scary. I will not go into too much details, but there has been anger issues with him and a lack of financial security.
Now I feel like I will never be able to have the life I wanted; with a nice honest decent guy and have a couple of kids and a calm loving home with no screams or tantrums from a husband. However, I wonder if this will ever happen and I just feel hopeless. (FYI: We have no kids)…
I am going to start off with you having no kids at the moment with your current husband — THIS IS A GOOD THING! You would always be tied to him weather you liked it or not, and since you have NO KIDS, you can move on with your life and never turn back. It is hard to be on your own, and the older we get we feel more insecure in finding the right guy, but NEVER give up. There are plenty of men out there and you are at the age that most men are more mature and ready to have families. I am sure you will find someone, you just need to have a little faith. First things first, finalize your divorce, no one should have to deal with someone that has anger issues and if he hasn’t figured out how to be financially responsible by now, you are getting out at a perfect time before something worse happens. Life is scary, that is normal to feel the way you are feeling, but don’t get cold feet now, if you aren’t happy, get out, and move forward. It is going to be hard and it is going to be a change since you really only know one man your whole life, but trust me, where there is a will there is a way. Be confident and get your life together, you will see that you made the right decision and eventually you will find that NICE, HONEST, DECENT GUY to have a couple of kids with. You are still young, have faith and stay strong.
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