Question #1 from BF:
What is a good birthday present for my girlfriend? We have been dating for a year. She’s gonna be 40, I’m 43. I wanted to get her a cell phone because hers broke and her budget is tight right now, so I figured that would help her. It’s about $80. I told her that’s what I was thinking of getting for her and I thought she would be excited, but her response was not of that at all. She said she was going to take care of that herself. Any ideas?
My Response to BOTH:
You two need to just communicate how you feel. I think that she just wanted something more meaningful, and since she can buy her own cell phone once she gets paid, she rather have something else. I do understand what you are trying to do though, and I do think that it is very thoughtful and personally I wouldn’t mind it as a gift for my birthday if my budget was tight and I had to wait to get paid to get a new cell phone. However, every women is different, and if she wants to pay for her own cell phone, I say let her! Get her something else more romantic or something else she may really like. I think she was thinking more jewelry or something from the heart. Good Luck!
Question #2 from GF:
I think it is thoughtful of him to want to get you the cell phone because he’s thinking about you in the way that he knows you are tight on money right now and thought that would be a good gift. Honestly I think for your age you are being a little selfish, I also understand that jewelry (not so expensive) or something more sentimental more personal is always much nicer, but I do not think he is trying to get you the cell phone to try to be cheap or anything like that, it is still an $80 dollar phone. I think that you are both struggling with this, and it is something that should be talked about between the two of you more clearly, I know you said you already told him how you felt, but maybe you need to just word it a bit differently. It’s your birthday and don’t worry so much about the gift, rather then having someone to share it with and enjoy your day!
By the way…. I do not mean to offend you by calling you selfish, I understand you want a more personal gift, but I do think that your boyfriend is just trying to help and he thought it would be thoughtful and well needed since you said you are tight on money. You need to just tell him how you feel and tell him you just rather prefer a more personal gift rather than the phone but that you appreciate him trying to help. Good luck….
Happy Early Bday by the, try to enjoy and not worry about your gift so much… 🙂
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