I’ve been with my other half for over 15 yrs and lately I’ve found myself looking and fantasizing about other men. I’m 34 and don’t feel old and I just don’t think I should be confined to just having sex once in a while. He’d be quite happy if it only ever happened once a month and I need it a lot more than that. It hasn’t always been like that.. thankfully, but it has just gradually gotten less and less.
I love him dearly, but I’m starting to wonder if the offer ever came up about an affair, I would do it.
Dear Sexually Frustrated;
An affair is not the answer. If the only problem in your marriage/relationship is not enough sex, talk to your husband/boyfriend. Tell him you need more than just his once a month romp in the sack. You are still young and of course your needs are not being met so it is understandable to have a few fantasies, but crossing that line into having an affair is not only immoral but just plain out wrong and the most betrayal anyone can cause on another person. If you aren’t happy, COMMUNICATE! I don’t know why people just do not communicate and just think cheating will solve the answers. If you truly love him cheating on him is a risk you are taking on loosing him forever. If you really love him and you just want more sex then tell him. Throw on some lingerie during the day and spice it up in the bedroom at night, maybe even buy yourself a toy. If he’s still throwing you to the side, start talking to him. Let him know you are serious about needing to have your needs be met because you are starting to feel distant from him. Talking sometimes solves a lot.
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