The Question:
Dear Kristin Nicole;
I am 21 years old but I am dating a 17 year old girl who is still in High School, is this wrong of me? Can anything happen if we decide to have sex? Advice please….
~Too Old
My Response:
Dear Too Old;
First I have to ask why you would want to be with a 17 year old in the first place? You are young, you can drink now and go out clubbing and your girlfriend won’t be able to do any of these things with you, is this a relationship you really want to try out? Second, it’s not wrong if you truly like her and think that this relationship can go somewhere, but if you are looking just to sleep with her then I would be careful, you can be charged for Statutory Rape because she is under age. If you are questioning whether it is okay to be in a relationship with her or not then be honest with your girlfriend, don’t hide your relationship from friends or family and make sure they get to know you. If this is just a fling thing, then I would say move on and find someone your own age.
xo,
kristin nicole
Cradle robbin’! Haha.
I remember having just turned 18 and dating a girl that was about to turn 17. It didn’t workout because everywhere I could go, she couldn’t. Frustrating to say the least.
If you really feel for each other then go for it, otherwise just do as Kristin suggests and move on. Enjoy the single life!
I truly never saw the big deal. A lot of my friends date older. My boyfriend is older, never really got in the way, I was just worried what my mom would say. And teens are bound to have sex, no matter how old there boyfriend is. and i’m pretty sure if you are 16, and living in Florida you can date up to 26? or 24 one of those and it’s not rape.
But i can understand where you are coming from, if it’s family, someone close to you. You want to make sure this guy isn’t up to no good, and hope for the best.
In Florida the laws are tricky however, the parents can still press charges if a person is under 18 and the other is 18 or older, but this is why the parents should at least get to know the person and hope that he/she is a good guy/girl. This way even though you cannot stop your children from having sexual relationships, you can at least know who they are with and that they know to use the right protection.
xo,
kristin nicole