I have a real problem with my boyfriend texting other girls, some are ex’s. I’m not ashamed to admit i have a problem with this…who wouldn’t?? But it makes me feel second best. How do I go about asking him to stop without sounding like I’m making demands?
Dear texting ex’s;
Just be honest with your boyfriend, I’m sure he wouldn’t like it if you were texting other guys or ex’s. If he respects you, he’ll stop. You also have to understand that some of the girls might have been friends with him since childhood, if this is the case, why not at least hang out with them, so you know who they are. If it’s just random girls, he has to respect and understand that you are now in a relationship, and things like texting other girls is in the past. Texting ex’s? This I just don’t understand, an ex is an ex for a reason, and it should be left that way, there is no reason to be texting an ex. Let him know how you feel, don’t give him an ultimatum this will come off as being demanding and you don’t want to do that, you just want him to know that it bothers you, and that you would appreciate if he stopped texting other girls all the time, especially his ex’s. If he refuses then I’m sorry, but you need to re-evaluate your relationship. I gave someone else the same advice not to long ago. You have to respect yourself and your boyfriend should do the same, by taking your feelings into consideration. How would he feel if it was the other way around?
I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com and there was a response that I thought was totally ridiculous here it is:
I think you are overreacting, I still talk to many of my ex’s, i mean were friends. My GF doesn’t really know, but i wouldn’t think she would mind. Sometimes you need to talk or hang out with other people. I’m sure you have guy friends you hang out or talk with sometimes..right?
My response to that:
If your girlfriend wouldn’t mind you talking to other girls and your ex’s then why haven’t you told your girlfriend? Why are you hiding this from her? I’m pretty sure she would have a problem with this, and if she doesn’t she’s one of the few that wouldn’t mind. I agree that sometimes you need to hang out with other people, but if these “people” are other girls or ex’s then NO, That isn’t something you need to be doing when you have a girlfriend. Maybe you need to be single and not have a girlfriend if this is your way of thinking things are “okay”.
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