My e-mail began acting up recently. After about a week, I decided to change my password and create a new account all together. When I changed my password, I found that mail forwarding had been activated. An easy file transfer was set up (so that all of my files/e-mails were sent to a different computer) as well as e-mail to iPhone. I live with my boyfriend. He’s a computer guy and has an iPhone. It had to be him.
I’m not mad at all, I have NOTHING to hide. But I’m confused. We’re very close, affectionate, spend the majority of our time together. I feel we’re very open with one another and there’s no reason to be suspicious. Plus, he’s the least jealous guy I know. I have no idea why he’d be snooping around. The other night, we got in an argument. Afterward, I came downstairs, was typing on Yahoo Answers for advice. Perhaps maybe he thought I was e-mailing someone, I don’t know.
I’ve change the password on the account and I am now using a new e-mail. As I said before, I don’t care if he looked because I have no secrets. I’m just concerned he did this behind my back and I am curious as to what he was looking for. I’ve let it go for a few days now. Should I bring it up? If so, how do I confront him?
Dear boyfriend intrusion;
You definitely need to confront your boyfriend. Trust is one of the biggest issues people have in their relationship and without it, there is nothing to go by. Be honest with your boyfriend about what you found in your email. Remember that even though all fingers are pointing towards your boyfriend he may deny that he had anything to do with that, and you have to make a decision whether to trust him or not and move on from it. If he does admit it was him, explain to him that you have nothing to hide as he can see, but that it hurt that he had to go behind your back to do something like this, when he should have trusted you from the beginning. If he does admit this, you are going to have to trust he won’t do it again and move on from this. This is definitely a violation of trust and of your personal stuff. No person should have to go through the other persons stuff, it’s a violation of privacy. If the other person is curious about something then they should just ask. Good luck and keep me updated.
I found this question on Yahoo.com (2010)