The Question:
I am 37 never had a girlfriend and only made out 3 times, all while drunk in my life. I had a bad childhood and that caused me to not talk to women and ignore them. I was never really social in the first place, but a lot less with women. Is it bad that I am a loner for life? I am not afraid that I will be dying alone, but people look at me like I am crazy when casually talking about relationships and I say I have never had a girlfriend or had sex. Is it that bad or unbelievable that they would react in such an exaggerated way?? I mean its not like I don’t have sexual feelings, I have a few pocket ******* and masturbate a lot, so not like I have no sexual feelings.
My Response:
Dear 37 Year Old Virgin;
It is not that there is something wrong, it is that society tells us that by a certain age we have sex, and that by a certain age we get married and have kids. If you want to be alone and never be in a relationship that is totally 100% your choice, but if you are only saying this or choosing to be alone because you feel that you will never get anyone that is a totally different story. You are 37 years old and you have only kissed 3 girls in your entire life and only while drunk. Why do you think you have only tried kissing these girls but only while you were drunk? Perhaps the alcohol gave you a little push, made you feel more confident in yourself. Having a bad childhood ( I do not know what happened) can definitely cause someone to not know how to talk to woman or be afraid of being in a relationship. Love can be messy and sad and complicated, but love can be the best thing that can ever happen to you. So truly ask yourself, are you NOT in a relationship because you truly choose it, and because you really just want to be alone for the rest of your life, without ever experiencing a touch of another person??? Or do you think about being with a women, having that love, and wanting to share your life with someone??? You are 37 years old, this is the time to make that decision. Be confident about yourself, sure you may get turned down a lot, but there is always someone out there for someone. You can always try on-line dating chats or having a friend try and get you on a date. If you truly choose to be alone, then good for you! Do what makes you happy and don’t worry so much about what other people tell you or what they say. Society isn’t always right you know?!?
xo
kristin nicole
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