I am a devoted husband and father. I certainly help around the house, pay a substantial portion of the bills, and spend a lot of time with the children. I also keep myself in above average physical condition. I feel that everything is fine except our sex life. I try to be romantic (flowers/dinner), tell her how sexy she is, but my advances always seem to be met with opposition. This has gone on for about 3-4 years now. I’m not sure long I can accept a once a month or longer sex life.
Dear Substantial Husband;
You need to be open with your wife, maybe there is something going on with her that you don’t know about, and if it’s been 3 to 4 years of this, it’s time you get some answers. I know life gets busy and we all get tired, but once a month is unacceptable. Sex is an important part of a relationship and if you are doing all the right things (which it sounds like you are), helping around the house, being with the kids, staying in shape and being romantic then I really don’t see a problem here. Sounds to me, that your wife isn’t happy about something and the only way to find out what is going on is to straight out ask her. See if someone can take the kids for the weekend and sit down and talk to your wife about what is bothering you, a marriage a relationship is doomed with out communication, if you don’t talk about it now things won’t get better. It’s already been 3-4 years….don’t keep waiting to ask her what is wrong, and try to fix it and get that flame going again.