I met a guy 3 months before my big traveling trip. This was my dream. I told him my plans since day one and after spending a lot of time together we fell for each other and decided to keep in mutual contact. This progressed into a long distance. Our relationship got stronger and stronger its been year apart, I thought he was the one. I came to realize that I needed to make a choice between my relationship and my trip so I chose the relationship. But ever since we have booked the flight tickets of him visiting me in London then returning home to Australia together we have been constantly fighting for no reason. I thought it was because the long distance that once we can be physically together it would resolve the arguments. Today would be five days before he actually comes to London and he has dumped me.
His reasons were that I haven’t sacrificed anything, if I loved him then I shouldn’t of left him in the first place and will not forgive me for it. That i haven’t given myself fully, I am holding back and don’t want to be committed. That the love that I give him is not good enough, not the same as the love he gives me.
I am still in shock. I have planned this trip for ages it was my dream, he knew it all along and I have sacrificed it for the relationship. I have quit my job, quit all my traveling plans, worked my **** off to save some cash for when I get home. Flights were booked, parcels sent home all because I wanted the relationship. I am so confused, who would do something like that?
I’m going to make this short and sweet, Love is great but we will never understand why men do the things they do. You did the right thing by traveling and doing what you have always dreamed to do, sometimes we hold back for love only to find out later that the love we held back for wasn’t really ours to keep. I know it hurts and you already moved half your stuff, but you can get that back, stay where you are and don’t go back home, if your boyfriend wants to tell you about the sacrifices you haven’t made, how about the sacrifice he is throwing back in your face (the fact that he was waiting for you), and he could have joined you on your trip.He could be giving you the guilt trip to break up with you because he’s found someone else (it’s harsh to hear but you have to take this into consideration), or he just truly feels that the relationship isn’t going to work. Try talking to him to get closure if you like, but I think moving on and living your life is the best way to go. Keep doing what you are doing, you can’t stop your dreams for someone else, if the other person really and truly loves you, they will follow you to your dreams.
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