The Question:
My husband has had an affair with a woman he used to work with for over 1.5 years, now. They’ve been back and forth but he always goes back to her and begs to get back together.
Last week, she visited the office to see someone else and he invited her into his office. They had sex – I know all this from subsequent emails.
In them, he discusses our kids and her son a lot, complimenting her mothering skills, how “strict” she is, how great it is that she chooses not to work (I do), and he even got to the point of illustrating to her what our oldest son would act like if he met her – and how much he would like her. He also made sure to tell her that he had just hung up on me to make sure he could see her that day…
Does a man pursue sex/talks about family with the same woman for that long without being emotionally involved? Or is all of this proof that this isn’t just about sex for him? Please be honest.
(Yes, I plan to leave him, I just want to know his level of involvement.)
My Response:
Dear Cheated on;
First let me say that I really hope you do end up leaving him, because no women should have to bare such disrespect and something so disgusting as cheating on their family. Second….Does it really matter how emotionally involved he is? Regardless if a man cheating says it was only about the sex, emotions are always involved. For your husband to be giving this women details about his children could mean he is more emotionally involved than just being there for the sex, but it could also just be him lying to her to keep her around. Either way, I say he’s in too deep and giving information about your children to another women who knows he’s married is just sick. Leave him and keep those emails for your lawyers. You deserve so much better than that…..you deserve a real man who won’t cheat on their family.
xo
kristin nicole
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