She was lazy sarcastic and rude before she was pregnant, now its just gotten way out of hand. She doesn’t help out, the last time the family went dirt bike riding she didn’t lift a finger and then gloated about it by stating ” I didn’t do anything all day” everyone just kind of rolled their eyes. She’s sarcastic, the last time we all went out to dinner no one was talking to me so I started playing a game on my phone and she turned to her husband (my brother) and said I hate it when people are on their phone at the table, and yes it was clearly said so I could hear it, and now shes rude, me and my mom were discussing the baby shower and she started to give us rules and regulations certain games she doesn’t want played what colors we could use, and the last time my mom was talking to her I wasn’t there and she started acting like its an inconvenience saying, do I have to have a shower? My feeling is, if me and my mom are throwing her a baby shower paying for it and all, shouldn’t she just shut up and be Happy? Whats your thoughts?
Dear Sister In Law;
Unfortunately it is her shower, whether you guys are throwing it or not, it is a gesture and she does have a say in colors and what she wants to play and doesn’t want to play, however, with that said her being lazy and rude and sarcastic is something totally different and has nothing to do with the shower. I would either talk to your brother first about it, and see what he says. If everyone knows she is being lazy and no one has said anything, then I would just ignore her all together. Family outings try to hang out with other family and away from her negativity. If you can’t help but tell her how you feel, then confront her, remember though she is pregnant so she is probably a little more sensitive than usual, but if she is normally rude and sarcastic and lazy than you know this is who she is and she is married to your brother so there isn’t much you can do about it. I say ignore her, and do what you want, don’t worry about what she says or what she does, you only have to see her when you go on family outings.
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