The Question:
I broke up with my boyfriend on Saturday, he didn’t want it to end, but I made that decision. He has done a lot of things that I think are not really acceptable (like staying over at other girls houses – with a group of other people)
Anyway, I said I wanted to be friends and I meant it. Today by complete accident on facebook his facebook chat conversation came up on my page (I was looking at profile privacy to block parts of my profile from him), anyway- I read through it and this girl he hasn’t seen for ages was asking him how he has been.
He said just busy with uni, and trying to find a job was the main ‘woe’ in his life at the moment.
He didn’t mention that he just broke up with his girlfriend, he didn’t mention anything like that (we have been together for 6 months). The conversation wasn’t flirty at all, he was just wishing her a happy b-day. I didn’t mean to come across this information, but it has hurt me a bit. Am I overreacting???
My Response:
Dear Overreacting;
Yes you are overreacting!!! Him not mentioning you to another girl he was just having a casual conversation with doesn’t mean anything. Some guys are very private and don’t talk about their personal lives to just anyone. This isn’t any indication that he doesn’t care about you or never cared about you. If I may ask a question though, you are the one that broke up with him, so why do you care if he didn’t care about you now? I also don’t see how his conversation with someone else on Facebook just happened to pop up on your window (sounds a bit strange to me), however it seems to me that even though he says he didn’t want things to end, you did the right thing. You have to have respect for the person you are with and sleeping over other girls houses weather in a group or not isn’t right if you have a girlfriend. I am pretty sure he wouldn’t want you sleeping over other guys houses with a group of friends OR not. You made the right decision, as far as being friends still, that might not be so easy if you still have feelings for him. Sometimes it’s better to go your separate ways and if by chance you bump into each other again or have mutual friends then you can be civil to each other, but move on and find someone that will want to spend more time with you.
xo,
kristin nicole
In regards to the Facebook comment, if anyone was suspicious like I was, we were wrong and “overreacting” was right, it did pop up, apparently Facebook had a glitch the other day. You can check out the article Here!
I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com
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