Advice Column: How do I leave the past in the past?

Advice Column: How do I leave the past in the past?

How do I relax and and enjoy the ride? I  want to be happy but I don’t know how to relax and enjoy the guy I’m with. I have so many doubts because I had my heart broken a lot. I am happy and nervous all at the same time. He is a great guy and we spend a lot of time together but I am so afraid of getting my heart broken or the relationship not working out because of my past. What do I do? It’s so hard, please help.

(Edited)

My Response:

Dear Past;

It’s hard to put the past behind you but every time you get that feeling you have to just remind yourself that this guy isn’t the guy who broke your heart. You have to trust him and you have to believe that he won’t hurt you like the other guys did. I know it’s hard and it’s much easier said than done, but if you want this relationship to work and grow you have to let go of the past and start new with this guy. When you start thinking negative thoughts, notice it, and stop yourself. Change your thought of direction and start thinking of all the good this relationship has brought to you so far. No relationship is ever guaranteed but we have to hope that the next one won’t hurt us. Keep the faith!

xo,
kristin nicole

I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2011)