Advice Column: What does he want?

The Question: 

What does he want? I  don’t understand him at all. 

My boyfriend and I dated on and off for 3 years. We’ve been broken up for 7 months now, but even after our breakup he would occasionally talk to me, just to ask how I’m doing, which I think was nice of him. He invited me over for dinner 2 months ago which was the last time I saw him. Ever since that night I haven’t heard back from him. I texted him 2 weeks ago saying ” long time no talk how are you?” But he never replied back to me, so I thought there was no point in trying anymore. I was randomly checking my Facebook last week and apparently he messaged me saying “how are you? “Miss you” I was shocked! We made some small talk and the last thing I sent to him was a smiley face. He hasn’t replied back to me since monday and I don’t think he will since its only a smiley face, but then why bother messaging me in the first place right? I just don’t understand why he did that? Problem is I still do care/love him.

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My Response: 

Sometimes when breakups happen, it’s better to stop talking to each other all together. You had an on and off relationship for three years. That’s a long time and that’s not something that is easy to get over. I am not sure why you guys broke up to begin with but it must have been for a reason, if not you would still be together. Texting or messaging each other and hanging out can only make things more confusing. If you are confused then maybe you need to sit down with him and talk to him about what is going on between the two of you. If things are over, he shouldn’t be messaging you that he misses you, that can confuse a person as to what is going on. If things are completely over then let things go, stop messaging him and move on.

xo,

kristin nicole

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