The Question:
Dear Kristin Nicole;
I would love to take your opinion about my relationship.
Shortly, I heard bad stories about the one that I’m attracted to. I heard that he is aggressive, and I heard that he hit his sister more than once and my brother also told me that he saw him with someone in a place which sells drugs !!! … all these are warning signs, but I’m attracted to him and in a very good relationship with his family.
The question is : should I give him a chance and try to know him by myself or I should listen to those people because I trust him, and please notice that these problems are rarely discovered !!
If you want more details let me know, but I don’t want to make it long !!
Thank you in advance and I wish you the best in your relationship 😉
~Rumors
My Response:
Dear Rumors;
It’s hard because sometimes rumors are started, but if your own brother is telling you that he saw him in a place selling drugs then this is not a good sign. Sometimes we ignore the signs because we are attracted to someone and lust sometimes takes control of seeing the truth behind the person. Maybe try to just be friends with him, and or confront him about the rumors and see what he says and how he reacts. You definitely do not want to get into a relationship where the person is abusive and possibly either taking or selling drugs. You said you have a good relationship with his family, do you talk to his sister? Perhaps you can see if the rumors behind him hitting her are true. I doubt that if she tells you they are true that more than one person is lying to you about him, and if this is the case it is probably better to cut all ties with him. Trust me, you do not want to fall into a bad relationship, if he’s a good guy then have him prove he is.
xo,
kristin nicole
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