Who’s your best friend?
Sometimes you have more then one best friend, sometimes you have more then one in a lifetime. I know I have.
Best Friend:
Definition: Best Friend, someone (singular or plural) with whom one shares the strongest possible kind of friendship(s)
I have had different best friends through out my life time. Or so I thought they were my best friends at the time. But has life teaches you sometimes a person isn’t always your best friend.
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Through out my 26 years I have had a few best friends and I have lost most of them and only a few stuck around or left and came back. I have had friends who I considered my best friends up until I realized they weren’t really my friends at all. Either they talked bad about me, lied to me or I just realized they only cared about themselves and if I needed them, where were they? Is that a best friend? Someone who lies, talks about you and is never there for you? So I decided to part my ways and move on.
How do you move on?
You have to be strong, if you realize a person isn’t good for you, then you have to think about yourself, and what is going to be good for you in the long run. I had a friend who I thought was one of my best friends, and I would call her and she would disappear for weeks on end, while I was worried something may have happened to her, then she would call me and everything would be okay. We would talk practically every day, then she would disappear again. After the last few times of this, I got tired of always feeling like I was the only one trying in our friendship. I realized that if I had a problem I couldn’t even rely on calling her, because she wouldn’t pick up. What kind of friend is this? Not a friend at all. So I wrote her an email, the only way I can contact her since she wasn’t picking up my phone calls. I told her how I felt and I told her I would be here for her if she needed me. I never got a reply, a call, nothing. So I moved on. Friends come and go and even though sometimes it really sucks to loose them in your life, I truly believe that you meet people to teach you lessons, or they’re just passing by to introduce you to someone else in your life. I have actually met many people who have introduced me to other people which changed the course of my life. You can’t turn back time and you can’t change things that happen in your life. Each person that walks into your life is a blessing, whether it’s bad or good. At the end of the day it’s a lesson learned, and new a journey and pathway into your life.
The last friend I spoke of, I couldn’t have asked for anything better because of her I met my boyfriend. I couldn’t be happier. So you see…You meet people for a reason, even if they aren’t meant to stay in your life forever.
True Best Friends
True best friends stick around for the long run. I have been lucky to have had so many friends, even if they have come and gone in my life. The ones who have stuck around, those are a blessing. My mom, that’s the first one, she will always be there for me no matter what, and this I know is true. She has been there for me when I couldn’t stand up, when I was worried or scared. She is truly a best friend any person can ever ask for.
Then there is my sister in law, she came into my life and we just clicked. She has always been there for me, we even have fought like true sisters. I know I can tell her anything and she won’t judge. I know that she will always be there for me like I will be there for her.
My boyfriend, I couldn’t ask for anything more then a person not only I love but is also my best friend. I talk to him about everything. Even if it’s about him, I can’t help but tell him that he’s annoying me. LOL. Not many people are as lucky as I am to find a boyfriend and have him be your best friend. And if you are just as lucky as I am, count your blessings =)
Then you have friends that you loose touch with but in the end of the day, they will come back. My best friend Grace. We have memories from when we were 14 years old. We lost touch for a while, our lives were in different roads, but we found each other again, and we know that we will always be there for each other no matter what.
So if you have a best friend, be grateful. Count your blessings for even those friends who have come into your life and left. Because everyone comes into your life for a reason.
XO,
Kristin Nicole
Meli says
This is so true. My closest friends are the ppl i met in 3rd, 4th & 9th grade. We have an unbreakable bond. I consider some of my girlfriends to be like my sisters (even closer than my REAL sister!)
I’m glad you and I still managed to stay friends. Even though the 2 ppl that introduced us are no longer part of our lives! Like you said, people cross your path for a reason and you are blessed with an opportunity to learn and gain something from it 🙂
Kristin says
Dear Meli,
Yes that’s one of my points, that we meet people for reasons, and some are to meet new people. That’s how we met =)