Cheating or domestic violence? We’re talking ONE affair/one-night stand versus ONE incident of putting their hands on you in a violent way, e.g. slap, kick. Not years of repeated offending with either or both of the two behaviors.
Which isolated incident would have you out the door first? Note that I’m asking about what YOU would do, and not what you think it’s right for someone to do. What does your personal instinct tell you? I was discussing this with a friend the other day, and we’d be grateful for what others think, too.
I don’t mean that if they both happened to you one after the other which one would you leave them for first… I mean, if you imagined that they did each one SEPARATELY, then which do you think you would have the worst reaction to and want to run away from them immediately? Consider each independently, without reference to the other. Sorry…should’ve made that clear!
Personally I would leave my relationship for either one. Each one is just as bad in it’s own way, no gray lines here. If your boyfriend/girlfriend cheated on you, it’s a sign of disrespect for not only you but your relationship and there is no way I would stay in a relationship knowing that person cheated on me with someone else. The trust will forever be lost, and without it, there is no true relationship. Domestic Violence is in a totally different category and this is something that no person should have to go through. I wouldn’t just be out the door, I would be calling the cops on this person in a heart beat. No one has the right to put their hands on someone else no matter how upset they are. Curious myself as to how you and your friend got into this conversation?
Remember respect for oneself is the greatest feeling one needs to have for a healthy relationship.
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