An ex- girlfriend of my boyfriends will not leave us alone. She cannot handle the fact that I am now with him. She is forever sending extremely rude unnecessary emails expressing her anger and hatred and starting highly inappropriate rumors. In simple terms, she’s crazy. What can I do? Shes wrecking our relationship and my life…
Dear New Girlfriend;
It’s a hard place to be in because you can’t really stop her from starting rumors or sending you emails. You can do a few things, one change your email address so she can’t email you anymore, two talk to your boyfriend. This is his ex and he needs to stand up to her and tell her that it is over and she needs to please move on. To be mature about things and stop spreading rumors about his girlfriend/you.
I once was with a guy who got back with his ex and she phone/email stalked me even after I broke up with him and she was back with him. Girls like this are immature and insecure, and it is hard to make them understand that what they are doing is immature and totally ridiculous. At the end of the day they broke up, I changed my phone number, email and anything possible that she may contact me with. I hated to do it, and I was very stubborn not wanting to change my phone number, I went through this for 3 straight months, phone calls at all hours of the night and more. I changed my number mainly because I got a new phone with a different company but it helped that she finally backed off.
As for your situation it is different. Have you tried emailing her back, I know it’s hard to be nice to someone who is crazy but try to tell her that to be grown up about this situation and back off. Spreading rumors about you or emailing all the time is not going to change the facts. It’s hard and hopefully you can get through to her, if you can’t, like I said earlier, this is your boyfriends ex, not yours. So let him deal with it. Ignore her rumors don’t give her the satisfaction that it is bothering you. True friends won’t believe the rumors and they will shortly pass.
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