How do you know when it’s the right time to support the partner, family or friend you are with?
I heard on the radio the other day a women calling in, saying that she wanted to own her own business. Her husband didn’t want to support her. He said they didn’t have money for it and she couldn’t do it. She didn’t let that stop her, she got a loan and opened up her own business and now she is doing great. She says she doesn’t give him a dime and she can do as she pleases because since he didn’t support her he has no say in her business now. Why wouldn’t her husband support her?
If my boyfriend told me he wanted to do something that can make him money, whether or not I agree with it, and whether it’s something I would do or not, I would support him. Why? Because it will make him happy. And what makes him happy makes me happy. Whether it works out in the end or not doesn’t matter. If it didn’t work then you take your losses and you start over. But at least you know you tried. If it does work, even better! I can understand if the terms of building a new idea was going to cost you to invest a lot of money, money you perhaps don’t have. I can see, where being hesitant to support your partner comes in here. If this isn’t the circumstance then I don’t see the problem. Don’t bring someone else’s dream down just because you may think it won’t work out.
To Support or Not to Support???
Now how do you know what to support them in and what not to support them in? Some people mistake this a lot believe it or not. If the person you know is doing drugs, but you are afraid to tell them how bad that is for them, or that they need help, or you think they will get mad at you. This is the time to not support there habit. This is a totally different situation than the one I described above. Do you care for them? Love them? Then take your chances, because when that person truly realizes that what you are doing is because you care for them and love them then they’ll get over the anger, but don’t support there habit. Help them by supporting their recovery. Be there for them by helping them not making it worse.
Do not Support
If someone you know drinks too much, same thing. Tell them they need to stop or your relationship is going to disintegrate. I know it’s harsh, but they need to know these things, and if they truly want to help themselves and they truly love you, they will at least try.
Try to support the person you love the best way you know how. Everyone needs to make their own steps in life and learn from them, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t help push them in the right direction sometimes. Supporting someone’s dream and supporting someones drug or alcohol problem are two different things. By supporting someone in who is addicted to something is not helping them it’s only making it worse.
~Note: This is only my opinion take my advice if you choose to. ~ Thank you ~
“We should never permit ourselves to do anything that we are not willing to see our children do”. – Brigham Young
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