Dear Kristin Nicole,
I have a friend who came over last weekend, and we discussed having a get together at my house to watch movies and eat with a bunch of our friends. However, I didn’t confirm with her and she went on to invite everyone without letting me know about it. On top of everything I realized I had a big project due this Saturday, my boyfriend will be painting the house and I have a lot of work to do as well. I told her that we had to cancel because of all the things I had to do and she sent an email out inviting everyone to another one of our friends house, without even confirming with him or asking him if it was okay to do that. She is out of control, and my friend called her best friend to tell her we needed to do something about this because she was getting out of control. Now she canceled the surprise graduation party she had for her best friend on Monday because her best friend told her she couldn’t throw the parties at either of our houses. How do we tell her that it’s just not right to invite people to other people’s houses with out discussing it with them first?
~ Frustrated Friend
Dear Frustrated Friend,
To be blunt your friend needs to learn some manners. It is very rude to invite yourself and others to someone elses house with out their approval. However, I understand that she is your friend and you guys are just trying to let her know that she needs to discuss things with you first before planning events at your house. Perhaps your friend just got a little excited about the whole get together, that she doesn’t realize that what she is doing isn’t the right way to go about things. Sit down with your friend and let her know that you were a little upset because she didn’t confirm with you. That next time you just need her to confirm with you before inviting people to your house. As for your other friend who was also upset, he should also tell her that she can not just invite people to his house with out asking him. Explain to her that you aren’t upset with her, you just need to communicate more with each other before planning any events. Or just don’t plan any other events with her to assure that she won’t go off the handle and plans things with out your permission.