My step-son will be 18 in Aug. He has been promised a job and wants to move in with his dad and me. We told him if this job comes through then we would get a personal loan in order for him to purchase a used car. We told him he would have to make the payments on the loan and pay his own insurance. He agreed. My hubby called his EX wife and asked her if this was ok with her. I feel it is none of her business. She isn’t going to be part of the loan application, making the payments or the insurance plus the child will be 18 when this takes place.
I understand where you are coming from, but just because he’s 18 doesn’t mean the mother won’t worry about her son, or that she isn’t going to want to know what’s going on with him. I don’t know the situation between the son and his mother and why he wants to move in with you guys, but I have to agree with your husband on this one BUT not entirely. Let me explain….I agree with him giving the Ex wife the heads up, she has a right to know what is going on with her son, and that he will be driving soon and living with you guys, I don’t agree with asking for “approval”, after all he is going to be 18 therefor any share custody or full custody is now out of the question. I don’t think that she needs to approve anything, he will be 18 and the father has every right to get him a car or do as he pleases with his son, however I think it’s just nice of him to give her the heads up, I don’t think it should bother you much, it really isn’t going to change anything. Trust your husband and the way he’s handling things, and don’t worry so much about what the Ex wife needs to know or doesn’t need to know. Now if he’s telling her personal stuff about your life then that’s things she DOESN’T need to know. Other then that, I think telling her about the car is fine, having to get approval is NOT fine.
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