The Question:
My husband and I got married last year, we didn’t have any money to have a big wedding, so the two of us went abroad and got married. No one made a fuss, bought us gifts or even a card!! Everyone thought I must have been having a baby or something but its difficult to explain how poor we are, and my parents are also very poor. I feel so upset our friends didn’t make any effort and my husbands family didn’t even send a card.
My husbands family are very rich and his sister has just got married abroad (where she lives). She is coming over to have a blessing with the family ans chose our wedding date! My in-laws are paying for a castle blessing and full blown reception. They are buying them their honeymoon too. They gave us £100.
I do feel a little jealous, but that’s life and its her parents choice to spend that money on their daughter, but why steal our day?! We didn’t get a proper wedding and now our 1st wedding anniversary is going to be spoiled. We are financially better off now and in a humph I bought my husband and I a trip abroad to celebrate our anniversary (and to avoid the wedding!!).
Now i am not sure how to tell everyone we are not going, we have known about it for a good 6/8 weeks now, Also, am i wrong to feel so annoyed???? I feel its not fair of my husbands parents to favor her so much more than him. He is much nicer than her, visits more, buys them more and always sends birthday cards to family etc, she does not.
Thanks.
My Response:
Dear Jealous;
Unfortunately some parents don’t believe in paying for the son’s wedding and it’s traditional to help with their daughters wedding. So let me get this straight your husbands sisters wedding is on the same day as your wedding anniversary? In this age of time unfortunately not many people think about doing nice things for others, even though you couldn’t afford a wedding so you just eloped your friends and his family having money should have at least offered to take you out to dinner or get you a small gift. I know it’s hard to admit you don’t have money for a wedding but you should have just been honest with at least his family that you couldn’t afford a wedding and you wanted to get married so that is why you eloped. It is also your husbands responsibility to speak up to his family if he’s hurt about them not even sending you guys a card. If you have known about the wedding for 6 to 8 weeks you should have really spoken up then that you had a trip planned on that date, and you had already bought the tickets. I do think it’s a little strange they would pick the same date as yours, and I don’t blame you for being a little jealous considering you didn’t get to have your big wedding or even a party to celebrate. Have your husband tell his family that you aren’t going to the wedding, that’s his family and it’s not your responsibility to tell them. Then go on your one year anniversary trip and have the fun you haven’t been able to have for your wedding. If no one has the consideration to consider your anniversary or do anything for you guys when you got married then don’t worry so much about what they are going to think if you don’t go to the wedding. I would be the bigger person and at least send her a card and a small gift then go on your trip and ENJOY.
xo
kristin nicole
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