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The Question:
Is this normal for a guy?
I have a boyfriend who I’ve been with since 2005, but I’ve been talking to this guy on Facebook for a while now. He’s 30 and I’m 26. He told me that he had a girlfriend and I found her profile on Facebook. I think they are having some problems, he talks to me everyday all day. He even flirts with me sometimes but based on the things I’ve seen on her timeline, I think he’s the player/cheater type. I don’t think they are together anymore and he’s just lying to me about being with her for whatever reason. He stalks me a lot on Facebook and messages me all the time. It seems like he has really had a hard life and he told me that he wanted to be friends with me. Some of the things he says comes off as flirty. He asked me if I have ever heard of a forehead kiss. Saying it’s so relaxing he said; “If a man pulls a woman towards him and he looks her in her eyes, grab her waist, then bite his lip wanting her and if she doesn’t stop him from kissing her after a hug then hey.” He said that he wanted to be friends with me. I’d like to be friends with him too but I don’t know if I can trust him. I do not want to get involved with him physically at all meaning I do not want to sleep with him. I really want to be friends with him but I don’t want him to take advantage of me. Like I want to be there for him and try to be there for him. Am I stupid for feeling this way? I know he’s a player that’s why I don’t want to be his girlfriend I only want to be friends and nothing more.
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My Response:
Dear Chatter;
I’m a bit confused on how you start your question… You have a boyfriend that you have been with since 2005, but you are talking to this guy on Facebook who has a girlfriend? Did I miss anything? First off, if you are emotionally cheating on your boyfriend don’t you think you need to figure out your situation before moving onto a relationship with anyone? It’s okay to have guy friends but looking for someone to talk to when you are already in a relationship is a bit odd. Second if the guy you are talking to has a girlfriend then move on, why are you wasting your time with a guy that is already taken? If he truly wasn’t happy with his girlfriend he would break up with her and try to be with you, but that’s not the case. You say you don’t want anything physical with this guy that you only want to be friends, but the truth is, if he’s flirting with you then more than likely he wants to be more than just friends. I say figure out your relationship first and move on from this guy.
xo,
kristin nicole
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