The Question: Lost Sex Drive
We have been dating for a little over 6 months, he’s 19, I’m 17. We both have pretty low-stress life styles, at the moment he is doing a simple course with little study or work content, so I figure it isn’t stress. [sic]. The thing is, we still do sexual things, almost every night, but never actual sex, which bothers me because by “we do sexual things” I mean, I give him a bl0w job, and we go to sleep. The funniest part is that when we first started dating he told me he didn’t like blow jobs and had never ‘blown his load’ during. [sic]. My guess is my ‘skills’ are a drastic improvement upon his other girlfriends, because after a little bit of convincing, he let me give it a go and now it’s all he wants! Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad he enjoys it and I have no problem doing it, but a girls gotta [sic] get some every now and again. (at least, I do…) Not to mention it’s making me feel very unattractive, despite all his reassurances. Any similar experiences or advice?
Dear not getting any;
He’s young, he shouldn’t have little sex drive at all, he should be wanting to have sex with you 247. If he’s only wanting you to go down south then you need to stop, and tell him that you want him to go down south on you for a change; or simply state what you want and tell him you want him. If this doesn’t work then I would start wondering if there is something else behind the whole (him not wanting sex and only bl**jobs) He’s also just 19 and we think about things way more then men do, so maybe he just thinks you enjoy going down on him and you aren’t looking for any other type of satisfaction. COMMUNICATION is key in any relationship especially when it comes to sex. Speak up, tell him what you want and that you don’t go down on him for his pleasure only, you need some attention too. Good luck….
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