Advice Column: Virgin vs friends with benefits… My friend is a virgin but wants to have sex with me. Like… friends with benefits. What should I do?
One of my friends is coming over to my place soon and she’s wanting to have sex (amongst hanging out and so on.)
I was okay with this and passingly asked how many guys she’s slept with. She replied that other than oral/hands she’s a virgin.
Now, I’ve never slept with a virgin before. I know you have to treat her gently as if you were doing brain surgery on the President.
I know what to do in order for it to be less painful, but how do I make it an awesome experience for her? I mean you never forget your first time, so I want her to remember it in a positive (insert HIV joke here) manner. She and I aren’t looking for a relationship. Just buddies who have sex every now and then. How can I make it more special without sounding like I’m trying to be romantic after we agreed no romance? I appreciate the help.
There is a very fine line that you are playing with in taking a girls virginity. She may say she doesn’t want anything now, but she has never been intimate with someone, so she doesn’t really know what feelings comes with that. I honestly wouldn’t do it. I wouldn’t ruin your friendship on just wanting to have a friend with benefits, especially if she is a virgin. She should want it to be special with someone she really loves and not just to get it over with. It’s nice of you to want to make it special for her, but the best thing you can probably do for her, is let her down gently and tell her to find someone she really loves to have sex with for the first time.
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